mmk99.A Powerful Stress Relief Technique You Can Use Right Now

You and I both have a belief about who and what we are. Indeed, everybody does. Many different events happen to you throughout your life and it is how you assign meanings to these events that forms the belief you have about yourself. If you view these events negatively, you can form a victim mindset, a mindset that will send stress levels soaring and cause you misery for a long time. An old friend of mine is a perfect example. Life was going smoothly for him until he was forced to change jobs because the company was "streamlining". He was assigned to a new job, he really struggled with it, he didn't get along with his new boss who eventually moved my friend to another department, on a lower salary.Gary changed dramatically. He was no longer a nice guy content with his life but a very angry, bitter person who deeply resented what had happened to him. He resented everybody, labelling friends as "selfish" and would snap at people over the slightest thing. Gradually his presence became unbearable and his friends, tired of the bitterness and arguing, deserted him. He had chosen to be a victim and he was taking it out on everyone. And the more he acted like a victim the more he became one. Millions of people believe, just like my old friend Gary, that they are victims and this becomes their life. A breakdown of a relationship, the loss of a job, a serious accident, a bereavement, a change of location - whatever. Such events are a part of everyone's lives and to keep stress at bay, it is vital you do not choose to believe they make you a victim.Here is a gem of a stress relief technique to help you avoid believing you are a victim.Let's say you want to install a brand new kitchen. You want new worktops, new cupboards, a new oven and hob, new lighting, a new sink and new taps all beautifully fitted. There is one thing you absolutely must do before the new kitchen can be fitted:Throw out the old kitchen first! Oven, taps, units, worktops, lights and even the kitchen sink - the lot has to go before you can bring in the new! Because you just can't put a brand new kitchen in if the old one is still taking up the space, yes? Simple isn't it? And the simple beauty of this is that you can apply it to your life and the events you have faced, especially if these events are still being carried by you in the present and you believe you are a victim.Whatever it is that has happened to you - your partner has left you, you've lost your job, you've had an accident, a friend cheated you, you've lost someone you love, your business went bust - whatever it is no matter how bad, NO MATTER HOW BAD, you now dump it. You LET GO of it totally, you have carried it for long enough now dump it so you can make a fresh start.Whatever it is, dump it. Get angry at it, take yourself to a private place and picture what has happened and then shout: "ENOUGH! NO MORE! I LET YOU GO YOU ARE DUMPED FROM MY LIFE. I AM NOT YOUR VICTIM!"I want you to think of this: Whatever has happened to you in life you can have but two effects on you. It can either be a curse or a blessing. If you choose to believe an event has made you a victim, then it will be a curse on you for a long time. You have the power to choose to make each event a blessing that brings value to your life no matter how unfair or bad an event was. When you choose to make an event a gift, you rob it of the power to make you a victim and steal precious non-renewable years from your life, just as the change of job became a millstone around Gary's neck and made him a victim and spoiled his life.